Increase Text Size
Reduce Text Size
Print Friendly
06/06/2005
Sexual identity is an idea. Sexual identity -- the belief that there is maleness and femaleness and that one is either male or female--is among the most fundamental ideas with which we interpret our experience. Not only do we "know" and "believe in" the idea of sexual identity, but the idea of sexual identity largely determines how and what we know. With the idea of sexual identity in our head, we see things and feel things and learn things in terms of it. ... The idea of sexual identity, in fact, has a claim on us that our actual experience does not; for if our experience "contradicts" it, we will bend our experience so that it will make sense in terms of the idea. ... Gravity just is; we don't have to make it be. Not so the idea of sexual identity. Sexual identity is a political idea. Its force derives entirely from the human effort required to sustain it...

~John Stoltenberg, Refusing to Be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice, 1989

Quote of the Day